Miss Elsa Svenson

Spanking & Caning in London with Miss Elsa Svenson

 
 

About time wasters and newbies who are too scared.…

I have post­ed about time wasters here in the past but I think its time to do it again. There are times when more than 50% of my book­ings get can­celled again or the per­sons just don’t show up. Rea­sons for can­celling tend to be  a  fam­i­ly cri­sis,  a sud­den busi­ness trip abroad,  sud­den ill­ness in the fam­i­ly and of course the car breaks down and the phone don’t work. 

Occa­sion­al­ly some­one are hon­est enough to tell me that the rea­son for can­celling is that they are scared, find it all too intim­i­dat­ing, got cold feet, note sure this is what they real­ly want etc.

So lets have a look at the prob­lem… you con­tact­ed me and told me that you have been think­ing about spank­ing for a long time and you real­ly want to try it.  You have per­haps been think­ing about it for years. You have been scan­ning trough the inter­net search­ing for some­one who can give you that red hot bot­tom you so intense­ly desire. You stopped by me as I seem “nor­mal”  I don’t oper­ate in a dun­geon and I don’t wear leather corset and high boots. You decid­ed to take the plunge and you sent me that short note.

Imme­di­ate­ly after you sent it, one part of you wish I would­n’t  respond, while the oth­er one knows this must hap­pen, oth­er­wise your life will nev­er feel full.  I get back to you quick­ly and we agree on a date for a first meet­ing.  Your e excit­ed and wish it could hap­pen right away. You email me some details about your fan­tasies and I say that is fine. I try to assure you that you have no rea­son to be so scared, as I am actu­al­ly quite a nice per­son. I send you detail includ­ing direc­tions and a phone num­ber, that you must call to con­firm the appoint­ment. You are still excit­ed and want to go trough with this. Its only a few days to the appoint­ment but as the day go by you fear start sneak­ing back in again.

Sud­den­ly the fan­ta­sy is turn­ing into real­i­ty! It all seem so scary, you have to trav­el to an unknown place and you are meet­ing with a total stranger. You will be expos­ing your bot­tom and even more scared your vul­ner­a­bil­i­ty. Sud­den­ly your fear takes over and it all seem impos­si­ble. You want to for­get about it all and you decide to can­cel.  You are afraid that I might try to con­vince you, so you decide to tell me you have to go away on a busi­ness trip. This way you get time to think it all through one more time and still keep the door open. You want to keep a door open in case you should build up enough courage to try again lat­er.  You know deep down that this need you have will not go away. You can bury it for a while but it is only a mat­ter of time before you a back look­ing at my web­site and wish­ing you had tak­en the first step back then.

I can under­stand that it is scary to give in to your own desire…because your desire means to give up con­trol and to sub­mit to pun­ish­ment. I tend to think that you are more afraid of your own feel­ings than of me. The biggest issue is to accept the part to you who crave sub­mis­sion and pun­ish­ment. I offer to guide you in a lov­ing but firm way and to help you ful­fil your own desires and dreams. You are of course free to leave any time if you don’t like it. I can be strict and even cru­el but only for as long as it takes to bring you to the space you long to be in. I will give you the encour­age­ment you need on the way to get there but I can­not help you ful­fil your dreams unless you take the first step trough my door. As we all know, you can lead a horse to water but you can­not make him drink.

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